Putting yourself first - Selfish or Necessity?

Updated: Sep 19, 2020

Running a family and a home is really hard work. Period. And that is before you have thrown other bits and bobs such as working, socialising and exercising into the mix too - in fact, life is totally exhausting!

I wanted to give you a bit of an insight into Organise and Harmonise and where my tagline of “putting you first” came from, what it means and most importantly how it could possibly help you in your busy lives. As its my first ever blog, I’ve kept it short and sweet, in the hopes you make it to the end!

My story is similar to a lot of people out there, I’m nothing special - I’ve been working full time from the age of 17 and I had my beautiful daughter at the age of 19. Life was a constant battle of trying to be a good mum, wife and friend, a good employee, trying to eat healthily and exercise, trying to keep a clean and tidy home, trying to study for a business management course, trying to keep myself sane and overall, just trying to be a good human.

If I’m being 100% honest, it took its toll and left me feeling totally overwhelmed.

It was a hard lesson for me, but towards the end of 2019 I was forced to take a step back and get on board with the alien concept of putting me first. Looking back now, although it was a really tough time, it has got me to the place I am today so I’m thankful for it.

Having come through the other side, I encourage you with all my heart to put yourselves first too. No hesitation and definitely no guilt - just take some time and think about what is a priority FOR YOU. Getting your thoughts in order and really understanding what it is that will make you smile that bit wider and for that bit longer on a daily basis, is totally liberating.

It honestly doesn’t matter what “IT” is. It matters that “IT” matters to you.

Maybe its setting aside some time to do yoga or go for daily walk. Maybe its organising your wardrobe, so that you know where everything is and you don't have spend time each morning hunting for that perfect outfit. Or maybe, you want to go big and plan a home project to complete over a longer period of time, for the sense of achievement. If by doing the things you choose, it means you are unable to do somethings further down your priority list, then so be it. No-one is monitoring if you’ve had your 5 (or is it 10 now?) a day in fruit and veg or that you have bought a birthday card for your daughter's friend’s cat - so give yourself a break and don’t sweat the small stuff. Focus on what’s most important to you and if I can help with that in any way, I'd love to.

Looking after family, friends, co-workers, pets, plants and anyone/anything else you are responsible for - is only possible if you look after you first. Sounds simple but its harder than it sounds, trust me! You have to be selfish sometimes and I promise that’s ok. Plus when you’re happier in yourself, its likely that you will be more productive both at home and work and all those things you need to do in your every day life, will seem like less of an effort.

I guess Ru Paul sums it up perfectly when he says “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else!?”.

I absolutely don’t have a magic formula and I still have days that are tough, but I feel more in control of my life now, than ever before and that stems from looking at things from this different perspective.

Over the next week, why not give it a go and start to think of some changes that will make a positive impact to your life and make a commitment to yourself to give them a try. I’d love to hear how you get on so please get in touch and let me know… seeing and hearing about your journey would be ace.

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Take care lovelies and please do what you need to do to put you first. Until next time.

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